Alcoholism in the home affects not only the alcoholic, but the entire family. Eighteen percent of adult Americans today lived with an alcoholic parent while growing up. Research suggests that the experience of having lived with an alcoholic parent can have serious detrimental effects for a child in later life, including how to approach and deal with interpersonal relationships. The exposure to alcoholism often shapes a person's behavior and feelings regarding such relationships and marriage, which can lead to a higher level of dissatisfaction and, in some cases, divorce. Exposure to an alcoholic parent during childhood can lead to intimacy and trust issues in marriage.
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Growing up as a child of an alcoholic parent has influenced me in more ways than I care to admit. Back in college, when I first began delving into the comprehensive research available on this topic, I was amazed at how deeply it resonated. While it is not my intention to misallocate blame for personal problems of my own making, the scientifically backed findings are pretty astounding. A genetic component has also been widely accepted, as it has been found that children of alcoholics are generally four times more likely to develop the addiction themselves. On the flip side, consistent characteristics have been identified, and they continue to make their mark on empirical studies. The contradictory nature of those who were raised in an alcohol-induced home tends to trickle into adulthood, evading those closest to us. These destructive proclivities ensured survival, but at a price.
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An abusive father can have a detrimental effect on a young woman's confidence and on her future relationships. Some three million children witness violence in their homes each year, according to an article on Crisis Connection, "The Effects of an Abusive Man on His Children. As a victim of paternal abuse, a young woman may have experienced verbal or physical violence. This cycle of abuse or "battered person syndrome" occurs in three stages: the tension-building phase, the battering incidence or "eruption," and the respite phase. Young women with a history of abuse learn to alter their own behavior to pacify the abuser to prevent a battering episode.
The internal fight you have always had to face pulls you multiple directions. You think to yourself that your dad loves you, that he messes up at times but has also done extraordinary things for you. And that might be true; he certainly has always tried his hardest, but his hardest has not been enough to forge a happy childhood for you. You might have had nights where the yelling was too much, and where all the love you thought you had for your dad turned to hate.