Noting that she and her daughter "have a really good relationship," Olson nonetheless pointed to the challenges involved when it came to the subject of sleepovers for parents of LGBT kids. We're talking about kids, we're talking about kids being hurt in other ways. So we really had to think about what the rules should be. Ultimately, her solution wasn't that much different than that of parents of straight teens: "If [my daughter identified as heterosexual and] it were a boy, what would I let her do? If she had a boy over, would I let her watch a movie in the TV room with the door closed? Probably not.
But you're my brother!? (boyxboy)
Bisexual kids and same-sex sleepovers: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
We have no problem with that. I have read your gay-straight sleepover columns, but they are focused on friendships. The dilemma is if we say no, we set up the possibility that our daughter will hide future feelings just so she can have sleepovers. If we say yes, we may be assisting in a sexual experience too early for emotional wellbeing.
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I was 19 when I first had full-on sex with another man. I was at college, living in dorms, and the experience—aside from the usual horrifying awkwardness and somewhat spontaneity of the occasion—was completely and utterly unremarkable aside from one thing: the guy I slept with identified as straight. It was late or early, depending on your outlook on the world when I was joined by the boy who was living in the room next to mine, way back on the other side of the building.
When Trey Freund of Wichita, Kan. Sleepovers for Trey ended after that. Now at 16, with his family in the audience, Trey performs in drag at a local club. Instead of sleepovers, he drives home after hanging out with friends.